Stress during a separation is generally inevitable, BUT it does not have to take over you and your life. Whether your separation is amicable or not, there will be aspects that cause you stress. Knowing this is the case, you can be prepared! Here are 10 ways to reduce stress during your separation.
- Know that it is OK to have different feelings at different times. Sometimes feelings creep up on us and when we fight them we create stress. Take time to honor whatever feelings come up.
- Look for support. Find support in family and friends, those who love and care about you. Surround yourself with people who want the best for you, who you can talk to about the feelings that come up, who support you.
- Give yourself a break. Sometimes it is easy to get caught up in life and beat yourself up over everything. DON’T! Spend your time doing something else.
- Prioritize. Make lists of what needs to be done and what is the most important. Break things down to step by step so that each task feels more attainable.
- Set aside time for yourself. It is so important to refocus, ground yourself, and prioritize yourself. Spend time giving yourself what you need and filling up your bucket.
- Declutter. What better time to get rid of all that stuff that you haven’t looked at or touched in over a year?
- Look into some personal development. Read books that intrigue you, listen to podcasts, find Youtube videos. Personal development can really help to empower and help you to move forward. Find someone who speaks to you and tackle it.
- Spend time with your children. Instead of planning dates with your ex, plan them with your children.
- Take care of yourself physically. Eat well, exercise, meditate, sleep, whatever you need to do to take care of your mind, body, and soul.
- Let go of control. Know that you can’t control everything and that is ok. Stay focused on what you can control and let go of what you can’t. There is no sense in worrying about things that are out of your control.
Remember that stress affects many aspects of your life, and especially if you children, the best thing you can do is be the best you.
If you are struggling with the effects and stress of divorce, please reach out, we have many professionals who are available to help you in various capacities.